Dazed and confused

When I was younger, my father had me write out a list of "non-negotiable" qualities/traits my ideal guy would have. Of course my list consisted of important things (to me) such as having a relationship with God, possessing a great sense of humor, has ambition and drive, smells nice, has a great smile, arms of a Greek god, epic taste in music, etc. etc. As I've gotten older, I've added and taken away many things from that list as I continue to date and find things that I do or don't like in a guy that I might possibly want to spend the rest of my life with. My best friend always tells me that both it and I are absurd and that no guy could come close to possessing half of the things on my constantly changing list. Recently, I've gained this odd obsession with guys that have face tattoos. Yes, I said it, face tattoos. A bit silly since I also want the guy I date to have a good job, be an active member of his community and a strong social figure for little kids to look up to. It became even more evident how ridiculous I was being as my best friend (who is all too familiar with the struggle associated with establishing a career when you're covered in tattoos) was mocking me one night: "I want him to have face tattoos, but he has to have a good job! Are you stupid or something?!" Now, I'm not saying that someone with face tattoos can't have or be all of these things, but the chances of me coming across that is highly unlikely.

At first, I wasn't too sure where it came from. I've always told people that if they're going to get tattoos then it should be in a place that can be hidden so that it doesn't hinder them in life. (Let's face it, they're still not completely socially acceptable in most work places.) Then it hit me. I don't really want a guy with face tattoos--although maybe a sleeve or chest piece of some sort would be sexy--I want a guy that is comfortable with not conforming to social norms. I want a guy that is just as confused and free spirited as I am. A guy that has his career in place and knows exactly what he wants is less likely be accepting or understanding of the fact that I love doing volunteer work or that I don't really know what I want in life right now or that I'm currently taking time for myself to do the things I love. Why? Because society says that by this point in my life I should have my ish together...and I don't. Since coming to this realization, I've become accepting of the fact that I don't know what I want--in a guy or with my life--and that's okay. At least there's clarity in that.

What important qualities do you look for in a significant other? Here are some things that have been on my list:

Good communicator (verbal and non-verbal aka listening)
Trustworthy
Intelligent
Has morals and values
Family oriented
Team player
Good dental hygiene (it's very important to me and it should be to you)

And some not so important things...

Face tattoos...or any tattoos for that matter
Has a sexy accent
Dresses like a boss
Extremely good looking
Bad ass car (seemed important in HS, and now I could care less)